Pass the reforms all you want. It will change nothing. The dynamics that make up these fatal incidents will not go away because a few suits passed some papers around and get them rubber stamped by other suits.
Abusive men (and women), often fueled by substance abuse, will still be there, as will the substances. The ditzy women who want “a bad boy” will still be out there looking for bad boys while turning away better choices. Once they realize they cannot control their prized catch, they will expect the police, the courts, and society to control him for them. When they predictably fail, more cut outs for these ceremonies will be needed.
More laws will fix nothing. At best they will create more hapless victims of a revolving door criminal “justice” system whose lives will be negatively impacted by loss of rights, temporary loss of freedom, and difficulty finding a decent job. Assault is illegal already. Murder is illegal already. They made stalking illegal. Violating restraining orders is illegal. The first two are basics. The latter two, in a manner of speaking, are add-ons. If someone violates the first two, does anyone believe the latter two will be any more difficult to violate?
People need to parent their daughters. Raise them to at least have a nodding acquaintance with logic and common sense. Raise them to understand boundaries and when “enough is enough”. Raise them to not be ditzy air heads who look for the bad boys and refuse to break free once the danger and abuse are apparant. Teach them self defense skills, with or without weapons; not the weak stuff from community meetings, but stuff like eye gouges, throat punches, nut twists, and bullet placement, and situational awareness. This is probably the greatest thing you can do to keep your daughters safe; not waiting on government to make more laws that will change nothing.
But the money that the state gets from the federal budget and programs directed towards these convictions only sweetens the pot for our legislature.
They barely even have the story go to trial, they’ll just hold you until you plea or wait you out until you get in trouble again or break a restraining order. If you seemingly pass those test then they get creative to capture a conviction.
Also I dont want to muddy the heart of this story, Domestics are a problematic for a family and a family member, parent or child whose life is taken due to the emotional response by a loved one, one whose main job is supposed to hold the supreme trust and safety of thier family.
The world is already hard out there and children need safety at home. It’s just as damaging to fabricate the scenario of abuse to a child and anyone involved with that side of domestic have no business being in our schools, being in our law enforcement or being in our public office or our courts.
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Pass the reforms all you want. It will change nothing. The dynamics that make up these fatal incidents will not go away because a few suits passed some papers around and get them rubber stamped by other suits.
Abusive men (and women), often fueled by substance abuse, will still be there, as will the substances. The ditzy women who want “a bad boy” will still be out there looking for bad boys while turning away better choices. Once they realize they cannot control their prized catch, they will expect the police, the courts, and society to control him for them. When they predictably fail, more cut outs for these ceremonies will be needed.
More laws will fix nothing. At best they will create more hapless victims of a revolving door criminal “justice” system whose lives will be negatively impacted by loss of rights, temporary loss of freedom, and difficulty finding a decent job. Assault is illegal already. Murder is illegal already. They made stalking illegal. Violating restraining orders is illegal. The first two are basics. The latter two, in a manner of speaking, are add-ons. If someone violates the first two, does anyone believe the latter two will be any more difficult to violate?
People need to parent their daughters. Raise them to at least have a nodding acquaintance with logic and common sense. Raise them to understand boundaries and when “enough is enough”. Raise them to not be ditzy air heads who look for the bad boys and refuse to break free once the danger and abuse are apparant. Teach them self defense skills, with or without weapons; not the weak stuff from community meetings, but stuff like eye gouges, throat punches, nut twists, and bullet placement, and situational awareness. This is probably the greatest thing you can do to keep your daughters safe; not waiting on government to make more laws that will change nothing.
Interesting.
But the money that the state gets from the federal budget and programs directed towards these convictions only sweetens the pot for our legislature.
They barely even have the story go to trial, they’ll just hold you until you plea or wait you out until you get in trouble again or break a restraining order. If you seemingly pass those test then they get creative to capture a conviction.
That is if your innocent, if your guilty they’ll put you on trial in two weeks with no hesitation.
Well said, LaketahoeZ!
Also I dont want to muddy the heart of this story, Domestics are a problematic for a family and a family member, parent or child whose life is taken due to the emotional response by a loved one, one whose main job is supposed to hold the supreme trust and safety of thier family.
The world is already hard out there and children need safety at home. It’s just as damaging to fabricate the scenario of abuse to a child and anyone involved with that side of domestic have no business being in our schools, being in our law enforcement or being in our public office or our courts.
Again, excellent points, LaketahoeZ!