Gabby Petito’s Legacy: Raising Awareness Of Domestic Violence 

So much we hear of this or that situation where “if the police had better training…” presumably lives might have been saved.

We have so many little cottage industries, each with its own agenda and each with its criers of “if the officers had been better trained…”.

You have the DUI industry, the BUI industry, the CDV industry, the human trafficking industry, and others the names of which escape me for the moment. Each has so many nuances and details to keep up with, how can any human being remember them all? Perhaps we need separate police for each situation so they can focus on each and every special crime that is backed by a cottage industry specific to that crime.

The cops here are catching grief that they didn’t do a bunch of stuff that may (or may not) have saved Gabby in this particular situation. Likely, they encountered what they perceived as a couple of drama queens. They perceived her as the aggressor because she may have been at that moment. They did not get the CDV Industry memo stating that “the male is always the aggressor and you need to devote several hours from your busy shift to ensure he is found guilty, despite the female fighting your efforts at every opportunity.” They may have had other calls awaiting responses. In many cases, calls can back up. These may be priority calls regarding crimes in progress, suspicious persons who by all appearances are about to commit a serious crime, shots fired, other domestic disputes, and more. Can we realistically expect them to take time to referee two, of dozens or more in their area of responsibility, people who can’t get along rather than acting like adults?

Maybe we need specialized CDV police, DUI police, BUI Police, and more, each with the manpower, specialized training, and the time to spend on their respective type calls.

I saw recently where some woman whose son died in a boating incident a few years ago is now calling for the Legislature to pass yet another law, named for her deceased son, because it will somehow salve her pain from losing him. Some of the stuff she is calling for makes sense. It would provide for better GPS marking for boat ramps and docks, so EMS and rescue can more quickly and easily get to people needing rescue or medical attention. Then there is the silly stuff. Requiring DNR to file reports of any boating or water related injury rather than just be notified. As I understand, her adult son was riding in a boat with others who may have consumed alcohol. The boat was riding along the shore line and a low hanging tree limb hit her son in the back of the head. Delays in medical assistance “may” have resulted in his tragic death. I doubt DNR being required to file a report would have mattered. Maybe if her son were not hanging out with (potentially) drunk people on a boat and (possibly) himself imbibing, he would have been more aware of his surroundings and avoided that tree limb. Is anyone else getting tired of our Legislature continuously being asked to create another law each year or less, named after somebody’s deceased child because it doesn’t have enough merit to pass without the emotional momentum of a name?

People early on, might want to raise their daughters especially, not to grow up to be drama queens and to make better choices in boyfriends and husbands. How many of the world’s Gabbys have told friends and others “I want a baad boy”? How many truly nice guys did she reject over time because she found them to be “boring”?
They want the “baad boys” but then they and their friends and family want the legal system and the police to help them control their baad boys once they find that they cannot do it themselves.
Police and the system are busy. Likely they are too busy to have to compensate for piss poor choices that too many people make far too often.

Life is painful. It is more painful when you are stupid. There is a reason it is that way.